Preventing Break Ups

Relationship break ups are hard especially when you are still not ready to give your partner up. It is hard to answer the question with regards on how to prevent such event. There are a hundred situations and each of them varies with every person. Sometimes, breakups could be inevitable. But of course, this is no always the case, there are several things you can do to stop things before they can actually happened.

Learn the Art of Communication. For most people, it is hard to communicate with your partner. The fear that these ‘talks’ would lead to an argument would make you zip your mouth and suppress whatever you wanted to say. Postponement of anything that needs to be discussed could harbor stressful emotions that can turn into physical ailments. Keeping your feelings today may lead to a very potent explosion the following day. You may end up having outbursts over petty things. When it happens, there are not only unresolved issues in your hands, but you just created another problem. How you engage in the conversation helps what you are actually saying. Try sitting next to your partner, hold their hand and talk in a comfortable place. Sensitivity plus tender assertiveness, bear in mind that your aim is not to ‘win’ an argument, but to be closer.

Stop Lying! White lies, no matter how noble the reason is, are still lies. Everyone lies occasionally. It is part of our nature. The moment you are caught lying, your partner’s trust is lost bit by bit. A normal and healthy relationship needs trust. It cannot survive without it. Do not lie about important things in your relationship. Truth hurts, but lies do something more dreadful: like losing the one you love the most.

Don’t Accuse. Accusations will just make your partners more defensive, and of course it will lead to another argument that you cannot afford. Instead, approach your partner calmly without being defensive. Tell your partner what is wrong. If you cannot tell him or her directly, you can write a letter. Leave while they are reading it so you are not on the edge about what their reaction would be. Allow them to process what you have said. Give them time. Tell them how much you want your relationship to be better. Make sure you identify the real problem and not merely the symptoms.

Anger Doesn’t Solve Anything. You cannot solve some problem in one night. Remember that there are things that can wait. Take time to cool down. Anger clouds your judgment and the both of you will end up yelling the whole night. Sleep it over, and who knows, in the morning, the problem may just go away.

Have Time For Each Other. It is not necessarily to be every day. But at least in a month, you have scheduled some quality, alone time together. Try to compromise a day and take turns in planning what you will do. Spending quality time will remind you of the things that made you love your partner.

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